When you worry about your sex life, what is the thing you worry about most? You may worry about not being able to "perform" (as if sex were always a performance, and you an actor). You might be worried about losing the person you like to have sex with the most (who may also be the person you love the most and like to do other things with the most). You might be worried that you'll never find someone you like to do anything sexual with, or someone who wants to do sexual things with you (kind of the subtext of the whole first season of Louie).
How often do you worry about fatigue? Fatigue, which is a sort of medical sounding way of describing tiredness that doesn't really go away and isn't related to something immediate that you've done, can have a devastating impact on your sex life. But when most people worry about sex they think of the big things.
Fatigue can be caused by an impairment, by a chronic illness or disease, and by any number of treatments for other illnesses or diseases. And to put it simply, it can make you too tired to have sex, too tired to want sex, too tired to even think about sex. For a while it might be the best thing to set sexual needs and desires aside. But you can quickly find yourself in a hole that you're too tired to get out of. And if you have a partner, they may be stuck in the hole with you. And there's nothing to do in that hole, except have sex, but you're too tired and both of you may be too angry or frustrated, and it's close quarters so it's hard not to start fighting.
So how do you start figuring out a way to be sexual alone or with a partner when you're too tired to think about anything other than how tired and unhappy you are?
Not surprisingly, the answers aren't easy. But they exist. Here are a few places to start thinking about and talking about getting out of this particular sex hole.
Sexual Activities that are Good for Fatigue
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