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Cory Silverberg

Sex Toy Review: How Do You Have Sex with a Cupcake?

By February 22, 2013

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There was a time when sex toys were shocking, I think, to most people. They were the add-on sales in adult bookstores, the novelties that looked and felt a bit sketchy, like so many potentially risky one night stands do. They weren't health care products they didn't win design awards, and their spokespeople looked more like this and less like this.

Things change. Well some things change. I don't think our collective shame around sexual desire has changed much. And while sex toys may now be considered an acceptable or even desirable tool for sexual exploration, the limits of that exploration remain terribly narrow.

When I was working in sex stores 20 years ago most customers came in uncertain of what to buy, and then what to do with their purchases. Today more of us may know a pocket rocket from a rabbit from a we-vibe, and we may have some idea of how to use these toys. But that's not always a good thing.

When the how is delivered by a self-proclaimed sexpert or someone who is clueless about sex but plays a sexual know it all on TV or a product spokesmodel whose bottom line is moving merchandise, even if we can talk about it with less immediate embarrassment, our options are still being dictated to us by people who are, to be generous, sexually uncreative.

There's something exciting about picking up a sex toy and not knowing how to use it. You need to use your imagination, you may need to laugh and feel silly, you'll probably put something in the wrong place. But how will you ever know your (or your partners) right places if you don't poke around a bit (gently and with permission of course).

Which brings me to Cupcake. There are lots of reasons to love this new vibrator from erotic couturier Shiri Zinn. But top on my list is that to use Cupcake one must begin to answer the question: how do I have sex with a cupcake? A question that's as useful as any other, if the point is sexual exploration, discovery, and pleasure.

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