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The fact that masturbation is private and that you are the only person you need to consider when masturbating, means it can be an excellent place to explore the limits of your sexual desires. We live in a culture with strong sexual taboos, which we learn almost invisibly from an early age. While many would never want to have sex that might fall into a cultural taboo category, most of us have imagined it at different times.
Masturbation can be a safe place to check out the less socially desirable sexual fantasies you may have, and see if they work for you. Remember that what you fantasize about sexually is not the same thing as what you consensually choose to do in real life. Many sex educators and therapists would say that any sexual fantasy is okay, providing that you don’t carry out sexual behaviors that are harmful to yourself or others.
So don’t just let your mind wander to the familiar scenarios while you masturbate, try and push your mental powers a bit (using sex toys and dirty talk can definitely help) and shine a light on the corners of your sexual fantasies that you might never share with others.
Finding your sexual limits can be a very healthy part of our ongoing sexual development. Knowing where your limits are is one of the best ways of knowing where you want to go in real life sexual situations. It can also help you communicate with partners about what is and isn’t okay for you in a sexual scenario.
