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The Fleshlight

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The Fleshlight
Photo Courtesy of Interactive Life Forms

The Bottom Line

If you like sex toys and you’ve got the budget for it, the Fleshlight is a must-have for you. The Fleshlight was the first thoughtfully designed male sex toy that was built to last. It is also a great toy to use with a partner as you can take it out of the case and create wonderful sensations on the inside by squeezing and playing with the outside.


  • Durable material and construction, long-lasting toy.
  • Material is highly malleable and transmits touch well.
  • Unbelievably soft and lush feel, retains temperature and can be warmed and cooled.
  • Different sleeves offer a nice variety of sensations (from tight to loose and enveloping).
  • Simple and smart design is easy to use and keep clean.


  • More expensive than other sleeve-style men’s sex toys.
  • The Fleshlight is large and some may prefer a smaller more discreet toy.
  • If you don’t get the “tight” models, some may find it doesn’t offer enough stimulation.


  • Soft innersleeve available with different internal textures.
  • Several styles of opening and colors.
  • Available with and without the plastic case.
  • Manufacturer: Interactive Life Forms, made in the U.S.
  • Cost: $60 to $80 (depending on where you purchase)

Guide Review - The Fleshlight

The Fleshlight was conceived, designed, and is still made, by a family-owned business. What they set out to do was come up with the design to offer men a discreet sex toy but one that actually delivered on its promise, and was built to last. They have succeeded on all counts and have been rewarded by having the best-selling male sex toy on the market.

The true innovation of the Fleshlight is the material. It’s difficult to describe in words but it is both soft and substantial, and has a rich enveloping feeling when it surrounds any part of your body.

Most male sex toys (variously called male masturbators or penis sleeves) rely on intense friction by making the toy much smaller than the penis that goes in it. The Fleshlight offers friction, but the sensation is much more as the material is pliable and accommodating. Because the material is durable and malleable, it allows for one to create a lot of sensation by touching the outside of the Fleshlight while using it.

The different openings or orifices (mouth, vulva, anus, bum, nondescript) don’t differ in feel, only in look. But there is a significant difference in the feeling of the models with dots, ribs, and the narrower models that create more friction.

A few notes on usage: Because the manufacturer did not want to use a toxic finish, the material gets sticky when you wash it. You can dust it with cornstarch after washing (never use talc) but this isn’t necessary. Always use a personal lubricant with the Fleshlight and stick with water based lubricants only.

User Reviews

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 5 out of 5
there ARE NO ""cons"", Member adamjca

There is no disadvantage to this product. 60 dollars is NOTHING at all, for thousands of uses of sheer pleasure Most male toys last but a few USES, a few WEEKS at best Thus, one should look at the cost per use, not the selling price. Even if this thing was a thousand dollars, it would still be worth it and more. Everything about this product is perfect, and frankly the inventors deserve a Nobel peace prize. I pride myself on the accuracy of my statements. I have had plenty of vaginal intercourse without a condom; so I know what real vaginas feel like. This product feels approx. 85-90% as good as a real vagina. Not only does it feel great, but the design is total genius. From the knurled surfaces designed to help prevent slipping, to the adjustable degree of suction/tightness, to the fact that when the cover is on, it is toally descrete I must say, that one must experiment to get the right lube. This is essential for maximum pleasure. You want one that is neither too thick or too thin. A little thickness provides a ""squisy/suctiony feeling; much the same as a real vagina. Total genius. I've had mine for 2.5 years, and even at age 47, still use it at least 15 times a week. Already used it over 2,000 times, and remember that I do NOT exaggerate. And, I am too lazy to even used the recommended features, for even more pleasure. I have tried the ""heat"" feature a few times, feel great but I don't have the patience to wait for it to heat. I imagine that If I used the cornstarch, and actually heated, it would be even more amazing. Every male from 12 to 112 should be required by LAW to own and use one of these things. For use with a partner, it also would be great. For times when a woman can't have sex with you, she can still sit on top of you, and work the thing on you, and pretend that sh'es actually riding you. Heck, if you are blilndfolded, you'd have a hard time telling if you were in HER< or in the fleshlite. I know this sounds as though I work for the company. I do'nt , but wish I did. If anyone in the world deserves success, it's these people

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