Discreet Sex Toys

Buying sex toys discreetly hasn't been a problem for a while. In the pre-Internet days mail order catalogs offered some discretion, when compared to walking into an adult bookstore, or worse still, buying adult material in a regular store, but you still had to figure out what to do with the catalog, itself physical proof of one's sexual desire and to some people's minds, ones sexual perversion.

It might be nice if we all felt so open and unashamed that this wasn't an issue - and the way that sex toys have become part of mainstream popular culture might lead you to believe that we are all out and proud about our sex toy use - but the truth is that many of us still feel sexual shame and for any number of reasons we aren't comfortable with family, friends, neighbors, and postal carriers knowing anything about our sex lives. This is okay.

You shouldn't have to be out and proud about your sex toy use in order to have the opportunity to use and enjoy sex toys. Any good sex shop will explain how they ship and bill discreetly. Usually they will have a corporate name that is different the store name (so "Susie's Dildo Shack" doesn't show up on your Visa bill) and they all ship in plain wrapping with a generic return address. At least the good stores do.

But for some it isn't just a worry about getting the dildo to the door. It's what happens once your sex toy is safely inside your home. What if someone finds it? One approach might be to work on feeling less anxious about that. But another is to purchase what the sex toy industry has started referring to as a discreet sex toy.

Discreet sex toys are sex toys that don't look like sex toys. Of course as the sex toy industry develops what "looks like a sex toy" changes. Gone are the days when all sex toys looked like peach colored penises or off white phallic "massagers". Still, many sex toys visually reference their functionality, and in that way, they read as sexual devices.

Discreet sex toys can be thought of as breaking down into three different categories. There are toys that are discreet mostly in their size. They are small, easy to travel with, unlikely to raise a security guards curiosity. Then there are sex toys that are incognito. These are sex toys that look like some other consumer product (for example a hairbrush, a rubber ducky, lipstick). Finally there are sex toys that don't look like something else, but also don't immediately look like they are necessarily for sex.

Some would say that objects have an energy and I think most people who know something about sex toys would agree that all of the items below could be read as sex toys by some people. But that would be on careful examination. A quick glance of one of these items, particularly when glanced by someone who isn't already familiar with it, could leave them guessing long enough to give you time to put the object away. And of course if they are familiar enough with it to know what it is, you might decide that you have less reason to feel embarrassed about your ownership of said toy.

The toys are listed alphabetically, not in any order of preference or rating.