Sex Toys for Couples

Recommended Sex Toys for Couples to Use Together

A unique solution to the problem of not enough clitoral stimulation during intercourse, the We Vibe is designed to be worn during penetration play. One arm is inserted vaginally while the other rests against the clitoris. The We Vibe stays in place during penetration and offers vibration for both partners. A high-quality rechargeable vibrator plus an easy-to-clean silicone body make the We Vibe worth the money for those looking for more stimulation. It doesn’t work as well in all sex positions, but experimenting and finding the right one can be part of the fun.

A simple vibrating ring with a removable motor, the Sonic Ring can go around the base of a penis or the base of a dildo. When worn so that the vibrator is positioned up, it can provide clitoral stimulation for a partner during penetration play. When worn by a man, the Sonic Ring actually provides much more stimulation for the wearer. If the ring is rotated so the vibrator is positioned down, it provides strong stimulation for the scrotum; when worn behind the scrotum it can stimulate the perineum as well. This is a much less expensive and less invasive toy than the We Vibe, but it also delivers significantly less stimulation and is of much poorer quality.

The Mini Double Dolphin is a lot more vibrator to deal with, but because of the two vibrators it has, it is much more effective at offering stimulation for both partners. Designed to work around the base of the penis or a dildo, the Double Dolphin provides clitoral stimulation for females and scrotum stimulation for males. As with most vibrating rings, the Double Dolphin works best in a woman on top sex position. The removable motors mean it’s easy to clean; you can also replace them without having to buy a whole new toy, and they can be used on their own for more direct stimulation.

Another wearable sex toy perfect for couples, the Vibrating Thong With Beads is surprisingly effective. The beads provide two kinds of stimulation for both partners. They lay over the vulva, and during penetration they roll back and forth, creating a mild pleasurable feeling for both people. Once you turn on the clitoral vibrator, the vibration is carried through the beads. Not only does the wearer feel the vibration, but the partner doing the penetration does as well. A rare example of an inexpensive sex toy that’s worth more than its price tag.

Bo functions much like other vibrating rings. It can be worn around the base of the penis or a dildo. What makes Bo unique, however, is its quality and durability. A luxury vibrating ring, Bo is designed by Swedish sex toy maker LELO and offers a powerful, rechargeable motor that runs for up to four hours on a single charge. I would recommend starting with a less expensive ring to experiment. But for couples who already know a vibrating ring delivers the extra oomph they’re looking for, Bo is definitely worth the investment.

Remote vibrators can be an exciting way to play with power and control; one person wears the vibe, the other gets to control it. The Remote Butterfly is designed to be worn under clothing and provides a medium-power clitoral vibration that can be controlled within 20 feet. It has straps so it can be worn like a thong, but it can also be worn over underwear by men. (It may not be strong enough to get a guy over the top, but it still delivers a teasing buzz that can be fun to control at a dinner party.) One cautionary note: All the Butterflies turn on to the same frequency. So, anyone else with a toy within 10 to 15 feet of yours will be affected by your remote control.

The Magic Wand made its name as a top masturbation sex toy. But despite its size, it’s great for couples as well. Start by using it as a full-body massager -- a great way to ease into sex play and shake up expectations. The soft head is also great for genital stimulation (him or her), and the wand fits easily between partners during intercourse. Attachments are available to use the Magic Wand for penetration, but take turns holding it while you have sex and you won’t believe the intensity of feeling that results. So powerful and pleasurable you’ll forget the noise, and forget its there.

Many heterosexual couples are exploring male anal play and a kind of gender play called bend over boyfriend, or more recently pegging. The anus and rectum are sites of enormous potential pleasure for men, and couples interested in learning how to safely and pleasurably include male anal play into their sexual repertoire now have several sex toys to help. The Bend Over Beginner Kit is designed for strap-on sex. It comes with two silicone dildos and an adjustable and easy-to-clean harness that also has a vibrator. It’s a great and relatively inexpensive way to test the waters without breaking the bank.

Positioning pillows are gaining popularity, with several manufacturers each with half a dozen different kinds of pillows. The main drawbacks to these pillows are that they are expensive and big. The benefits in terms of more comfort and versatility in sexual positioning may outweigh the drawbacks for many couples, though. The Love Bumper Iceberg is a relative newcomer to the world of sex position pillows, but its design (a bit wider than others, with an extra vibrator pocket) makes it highly recommended. It has a removable cover that’s easy to wash and water resistant.

I’ve had some couples swear up and down that this Sex Sling saved their back and reinvigorated their sex play. I’ve heard couples who said they tried to use a sling once and then couldn’t be bothered, and even others say that they could never figure out how to use them in the first place. But they are relatively inexpensive, and if you’re looking for something a little different to try together, this Sex Sling doesn’t require bolts in ceilings, bungee cords, or anything other than some perceptual skills and a sense of humor.