Ideally in your search for a sex therapist you will end up with a few names so you have a choice of which therapist you want to work with. Here are some suggestions of places to get referrals to a sex therapist.
Personal referrals for a sex therapist from friends or family.You might not be comfortable talking with friends or family about your concerns, but if you are, you might be able to get a referral to someone who comes personally recommended. This can be a great way to find therapists as it is hard to know from an ad in the yellow pages or a short phone conversation who will be good.
Referral from a family physician or other health care provider to a sex therapistIf you have a family doctor or other health care practitioner that you are comfortable talking to about sexual issues, you can start by asking them if they can offer a referral. They may be able to provide a referral that would be covered by insurance.
Sex Therapy Referral Lists
Here are a few on line places to find referral lists for sex therapists.
The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists both certifies sex therapists and maintains an on line referral directory.
The American Board of Sexology also has an on line referral directory of sex therapists certified by their organization.
Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) began as a privately funded, non-profit service dedicated to providing the community with referrals to psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality. The list is now maintained by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, and can be found on their site .
The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (formerly the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy) maintains a sex therapist referral list on their very informative website.