Based on your description, Id say whats happening to you is that you are experiencing vaginal dryness. Whats impossible for me to say, is why. There are many reasons women experience vaginal dryness . Aside from fluctuations in hormones (including changes that result from taking certain medications ) and a variety of medical procedures that can lead to vaginal dryness, you may also not get wet if you simply arent turned on enough. One way to narrow it down a bit is to notice whether your vaginal lubrication is still the same when you masturbate. If it is, it may be something about the sex youre having (or who youre having it with). If youre experiencing the vaginal dryness during all your sex play, there may be something else going on. There are many options to treat vaginal dryness most of which are easy and non invasive.
I also wanted to take a moment to respond to your comment about never needing to use lubricant. This is a bit of a shameless plug (so to speak) but personal lubricants are, in my opinion, the great unsung sex toy. For many people it isnt a question of needing or not needing lubricant, its a matter of lubricant making sex slippery, more sensitive, and often more fun. Personal lubricant is also the easiest and least invasive way of dealing with vaginal dryness. Rather than thinking of lubricant as something that indicates a lack, you may want to try it out and think of it as something that simply adds to the sex youre having.
Read more:
- Causes of vaginal dryness
- Treatments for vaginal dryness
- Medications that can lead to vaginal dryness
- All about personal lubricants
Published March 12, 2006.

