Questions about sex positions are among the most common and popular questions posed to sex educators, search engines, and call-in sex advice programs. What are the newest sex positions, the most common sex positions, the best sex position? Are there recommended oral sex positions, anal sex positions, sex positions for when you’re pregnant, living with chronic pain, or prone to dizziness?
The problem with these questions is that the answer is always the same: that depends. Sexual pleasure, and sex positions, isn’t a science, and the only way you can find out more about sex positions, is to bring the creativity you have in other parts of your life, into the sexual arena, and start exploring.
If you want to test your sex positions knowledge before reading more, try out our sex positions quiz. But if you're feeling a lack of creative ideas, read on for some of the key considerations when it comes to thinking about new sex positions.
The most obvious part of any sex position is the physical position of your bodies. There are thousands of positions we can put our body into. Standing, kneeling, curled up in a fetal position, sitting with our legs spread open, with our legs crossed, squatting.
A good sex position isn’t just about how your bodies are arranged, it is a sex position that allows for the kind of movement you like in your sex. There are times you might relish a slow, even thrusting. Other times you might be in the mood for rougher, pounding sex.
Many people lack important basic information about male and female sexual anatomy. The angle of penetration can change the way a sex position feels for everyone involved. It may stimulate one part of the body more, it might be more comfortable.
When it comes to sex positions, we can focus too much on the genital connection, and ignore the fact that there is a whole body available for sexual stimulation. Arms, legs, hands, feet, can all be important players in an awesome sex position.
All the clichés about the “motion of the ocean” are true. Regardless of what sex position you’re in, regardless of how perfectly sized your partner’s penis might be, if there’s no rhythm, or if you and your partner can’t get in synch, the penetration probably won’t do it for you.
I have a friend who says she can always tell when a new sexual partner has learned his technique from watching too much porn. Those guys think that all sex is, is five minutes of mind-numbing (and genital numbing) pounding.
Of course you can never fully separate these six elements from each other. One of the things that makes sex positions a pretty funny thing to think about or get into is that ultimately you've got (at least) two bodies moving often in different ways.
Hollywood may make sex look like a ballet, but in practice it's usually a little more chaotic. But if you want to find positions that feel better or offer something new, working through these six aspects of sex positions can help.
For more inspiration, check out our complete list of sex position profiles.