From the article: Sexual Problem
Sex researchers, educators, and therapists have surprisingly different definitions of what makes a sexual problem a problem. How do you define sexual problems in your own life? What turns a sexual complaint, confusion, or inconvenience into a sexual problem?
When Is Sex a Problem?
I want all the time, but he cant.....
- last time we had sex was june of 1997. After that he shut downed. He says its health partly, meds, and hes shrunk. But I'm as horny as all get out. So he told me to ue a vibe. But I cry in secret because I miss the good ole days. So what do I do with out feeling guilty?
- —Guest Babs
Lots of love but lousy sex
- I'm in a relationship with a man, a relationship that has abundant love, with oodles of hugging, cuddling and passionate kissing. This man misrepresented his body status as 'a few extra pounds' when in fact, he's obese. I've always been attracted to super-skinny men, but when I laid eyes on this man, his beautiful face, smile and laugh quickly won my heart. The problem is that I can't perform with him sexually, though I can masturbate to incredible orgasms when I'm alone. I feel awful and deceptive but I do love him so much, enjoy the non-sexual intimacy and miss him terribly when we're apart. Part of me says 'take what you can get while you can get it', but the other part of me says 'risk hurting him but be honest and break up with him before the attachment grows'. Arrgghhh!
- —jaroslaw666
Answers or therapy?
- I've been married for forty years, but now my wife has alzheimer's disease and no longer wants any form of sexual contact. I feel I need some intimate contact and sex, and wonder what my best course of action should be, to become active again.
- —Guest No sex
No Honesty, Big Problem
- To be truly intimate with someone that person must have the mindset that they would always care for you and respect you. This also means that your relationship with this person is a safe environment. Open honest conversation without the fear of controlling partners, losing self, or losing the relationship entirely because you opened up is essential. My husband and I have a swingers lifestyle and we are open and supportive with it and with the rest of elements of a relationship. I can honestly say it makes me want to love him more by him being open, honest and not feeling inferior that I wouldn't love him any more if I been or was with another person man or woman. He's # 1 knows
- —Guest RE: My husband wants me to have sex with
reciprocity
- Sex to be worthwhile must have intrinsic values to both parties without extraneous issues to cloud the essence of the act for either.
- —Guest soapberry
No Compromise, No Sex
- When ones expectations aren't met. When there is no interest shown. When promises aren't met. When do's and dont's aren't rhyming and there is no compromise.
- —Guest seif abeid
When Trust Is Broken
- I think when someone's love and commitment to their partner is overshadowed by their need to have sex with anyone and trust is broken it is a problem.
- —kiwi55
Attracted to Too Many Men
- As a human being I'm attracted to sex. Recently I had a threesome which excited me a lot. I was eager to have threesomes after that but in mid-time I had sex with one of my ex boyfriends. He said he wants me back and I'm in a fix as he was the main man to turn my attraction towards sex, but now if any other of my partners ask for the same how do I deny them?
- —Guest Riya Khaund
Accepting one's body
- Not being accepted by others for what you have physically, or pressured by society to conform. We all have insecurities and fantasies. I have foreskin, and was told to get it removed. I'm glad that someone said not to, because it was ok to masturbate using it.
- —Guest Scorpio
