From the article: Sexual Compatibility
There’s no single definition for sexual compatibility and researchers rarely ask us what we think it means. Is sexual compatibility something you just have or don’t? Is it about shared sexual interests and drives that grease the wheels, or is it the tension between desires that don’t fit perfectly that creates the friction and heat? Have you been in relationships where you knew you weren’t compatible and ones where it just clicked? What Do You Think?
The Power of Touch
- You're right! If you can't handle the partner's style of sex you can't survive with high sexuality. We both are sex lovers and when he's tired I'm horny but we're so good to each other the next days work goes out the door as soon as he starts! It's amazing knowing that we can argue but get through with just one touch no matter what!
- —Guest rachelle craig
THE NEW INTERCOURSE
- In the original Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) study couples reported simultaneous orgasm "almost always" or "often." The discovery of coital alignment has revealed a natural anatomic design. Question: Why have sexologists been resistant to the CAT research if it has provided an understanding of the physiology of sex act that is fundamental to SEXUAL COMPATIBLITY? Because the CAT research heralds the end of what Wardell H. Pomeroy in his Kinsey bio referred to as the Kinsey "grand scheme" and "grand design" -- an agenda that was launched in the academia. A video published on the CAT (2001)documents how pioneers of sexology like R. L. Dickinson described fundamentals of coital alignments, but never quite enough to provide the "how to." Can the CAT research be ignored or suppressed? On January 16th (2009) the CAT was discussed on the Oprah TV show. The commerative update of THE JOY OF SEX includes the CAT model. Etc, etc, etc. The world is changing as we speak.
- —catnature
SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY IS NEEDED...?
- Sexual compatibility is very important for those males/females who are very sexual.I think when 2 people know that they enjoy the sexual and erotic energy from within themselves -then one(both) has to seek the other for compatibility.If not, one person(male or female) will fall short in the relationship.Sexual compatibility is like "any" compatibility meaning 2 people need 'like' ideas and interest to attract and help build cohesiveness in a relationship.Sexuality is an important one for those that truly enjoy and feel that sexuality is a wonderful expression to have with a relationship!
- —Guest ALEX A (male)
Physical Compatibility
- I am young and I definitely need to "feel the heat" to consider someone as a significant other. I agree with Aimee's post. However, that is more related to the emotional side of compatibility. There is a physical level of compatibility too. I can feel the heat with my man every time, but he is so big that the "heat" can quickly turn to pain. It has strained our relationship at times and we have had to be really creative to find ways to satisfy eachother as we "train" for normal sexual intercouse. If our relationship was not as strong, we probably would have broken up a while ago for not being "sexually compatible."
- —Guest anon female
complex
- sex for me is serpentine in shape. I have fallen deeply in lust and love w ppl I was initially physically repulsed by but after experiencing traits like their zest, their brilliance, their optimism or deep respect for themselves and others; wanted to bed them as soon as possible. I re-learn this at almost every relationship. My initial heat for a person's looks can dissipate quickly if the deeper character strengths I'm attracted to are absent. Of course, having looks and the enchilada therein would be fantastic. Especially when I'm accustomed to them and the initial chemical attraction subsides.
- —Guest AIMEE
no chance
- either its there or its not. You can't control who you love.
- —Guest webphil
