Sex Question of the Week: Can I become addicted to my vibrator?
Wednesday August 16, 2006
Even before the famous Sex and the City episode where Charlotte gets a Rabbit Pearl vibrator and disappears for the entire episode (only to be “saved” by intervention), this was a common question.
The idea that one can become addicted to a vibrator, unfortunately, fits well with the most popular myths about sex toys. People who put sex toys down as being a substitute or replacement for a partner like to imagine that those of us who use sex toys end up sad and alone, talking to our sex toys at the end of the day, unable to find “real” sexual satisfaction with another human being.
I find it hard to believe that people can become addicted to sex toys. Although there may be instances that some people may really be into that, but the feel for the real thing is far form playing with yourself.
I used to be able to orgasm from intercourse but now I think I am addicted to my vibrator. I can no longer come from intercourse and I don’t know what happened to me. I remember that when I used to orgasm it was more like a complete relaxation and release and good feelings but with the vibrator it’s more of tensing up and then convulsing. I’ve forgotten how to orgasm the normal way.
Hi Courtney,
Lots of people find this happens, but just because now you find you can’t orgasm without a vibrator doesn’t mean you won’t be able to again. It’s easy for us to get into patterns of sexual response where one thing works, we come to expect it, and then we find that other things don’t. But switching it up, removing the vibrator, and trying other things most people find other ways and even the “old” ways start working again.