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Desert Island Sex Picks

By October 18, 2006

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Imagine you could only engage in one sexual behavior for the rest of your life, one single sex act and no other. What would it be?

In some ways, sex is like air. When you have an abundant supply, and easy access, it's the easiest thing in the world to take for granted. But if your supply gets suddenly cut off, it will make you stand up and take notice like nothing else. Metaphors aside even though our sexual options are not usually completely cut off, many of us do live our lives without having certain kinds of sex. Whether it's for religious, cultural, physical, monetary, emotional, or other reasons, we don't all have access to every kind of sex play we may want to explore. Those of us with greater access can forget this at times.

This week's sex tip is meant to encourage you to stop taking sex for granted, and to think more creatively about the sex you have.

Over the course of the next week spend some time thinking about the different kinds of sex acts you like to engage in. You can make a mental list, noting which behaviors you do more often, which are "special occasion" sex acts, and which you may have tried once but didn't care for. Then, for this exercise, you have to make a decision.

Try to imagine going a week, a month, a year, only doing one sexual thing (it could be with yourself, with one partner, or with a dozen partners, but always the same physical act). What sex act would you choose?

If you feel like sharing, leave a comment below and let us know what you'd choose. If you have someone you're comfortable talking about sex with, share your thoughts, and ask them what they'd choose. You might be surprised by the responses, and you may even find your own thinking changes as you take time to imagine

As always, have fun!

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Comments
October 18, 2006 at 9:38 am
(1) happy says:

this sounds like some sort of sex purgatory. nonetheless, if i could spend a week or the rest of my life on a deserted island receiving blow jobs, i’d be a happy guy.

October 18, 2006 at 11:21 pm
(2) Seska says:

I am not sure what I would want to engage in, but I would want it to be mutually pleasurable action with a partner. I would not want to be stuck on an island and only be giving head. I like it but not that much. ;-)

October 19, 2006 at 1:05 pm
(3) Duane says:

giving cunnilingus…. can’t get (give) enough of it

October 23, 2006 at 12:30 am
(4) Regina Lynn says:

Ok so how many women want to join Duane on his island? LOL

It all depends on how you define “sex” I guess. What physical act would I pick for the year? I think I’d have to go with “touch each other.”

I mean that pretty much covers everything under one “act” :)

October 23, 2006 at 5:32 pm
(5) Jessica says:

69–give and recieve!!

October 25, 2006 at 11:43 am
(6) Stace says:

Riding Dirty!!! Both parties involved are guaranteed to be good to go this way – plus most times its a good workout for the woman — depending on how she ‘sits’ ;)

October 25, 2006 at 1:36 pm
(7) JohnR says:

Intercourse, with her on her back, her butt on a pillow, her legs on my shoulders and me sliding into her while I am on my knees, or standing if she’s on a table, at just the right height.

October 25, 2006 at 6:08 pm
(8) Karen says:

Wow… tough question! Besides hanging out with Duane… I like the touching each other! Does this include kissing??? I really love that!

October 25, 2006 at 6:33 pm
(9) Tom says:

I personaly would love to receive BJ’s every day at least twice a day. My wife does this for me now anyway but I still love it. Being sucked off is like a prolonged orgasm for me. No blow job is a bad blow job. love sucks but true love swallows!

October 25, 2006 at 7:04 pm
(10) Lauren says:

I would surely want to be with Jessica. Going down on a woman is the best.

October 25, 2006 at 8:51 pm
(11) Scotty Gustafski (The Polish Prince) says:

I am sure this is going to sound corny or silly but I truly believe the best way to turn a woman on is and keep her turned on is emotionally. Having the “love of my life” in my arms is what I would truly miss most of all. The safety, the comfort and the security of knowing she’ll always be there for me no matter what!

October 25, 2006 at 8:59 pm
(12) Dan says:

To have the security and warmth of my wife hunging up to me at night and falling alseep in each others arms knowing all is right with the world even when I know it isn’t. To see her smile when we wake, to feel her touch, to feel out bonding…

This is heaven on earth…but then a blow job is great too!

October 27, 2006 at 5:04 am
(13) Larry says:

Wowww. I don’t get to choose very often. Mostly I’ve done masturbation because women don’t seem very interested. For years at a time. Your hypothetical of not getting sex isn’t that hypothetical. It seems to involve a lot of insincere charisma— the ability to charm someone into thinking that you are so enamored of them that she will think you’re going to marry her without actually saying so. I have offered vulnerability, respect for their equal importance as people, and my best and most generous level of friendship as the basis for relationships. Perhaps my wooing sounds too much like the men who are insincere. Anyway, I would pick basic missionary position, but with kissing and caressing all over her body first.

October 28, 2006 at 8:03 pm
(14) Matt says:

WOW…you mean I GET TO DECIDE and not my wife. Well hell, I would definately choose something other than what we do every time we have sex, which is about once a month. Probably touching eachother EQUALLY would be my pick of the litter.

October 29, 2006 at 7:44 pm
(15) Paula says:

Being with Duane would be great but what about pleasuring him. No, if I had to choose it would be with me on my back and having him kneel and hold my legs at his waist or shoulders, so that we could both experience great sex and see the pleasure on our faces and we would also have hands free to explore, caress, push, pull ….

November 2, 2006 at 9:36 am
(16) Randy says:

I would have to go with Paula, incredible sex for me is when I fully and completely excite and pleasure my wife and lover.

November 26, 2006 at 12:27 am
(17) Daniel says:

I’d have to say receiving anal.

No, I’m not gay, but it’d keep me interested, for sure.

March 19, 2008 at 5:47 am
(18) Pranav says:

This gives pleasure to assume the things. We can dream of any thing like to be at an Iceland with your girl friend and to have sex but in realty it’s very difficult to retain the interest of your partner in you and the things you do.
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May 15, 2013 at 11:40 am
(19) Stacy says:

It’s difficult to find educated people on this topic, but you seem like you know what you’re
talking about! Thanks

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