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Cory Silverberg

I Love the Smell of Sexual Experience in the Morning

By September 5, 2008

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We live in a "cover up" culture when it comes to many of our bodily functions. Deodorants, air sanitizers, perfumes and more are all unnecessary products whose existence is predicated on the idea that our natural smells and tastes are unseemly. Directly or indirectly most of this marketing preys on our desire to smell and taste appealing to those we want to attract.

Not to be left behind (no pun intended) the world of sex products has followed suit. There are several products available through sex stores and at least one patent for dietary supplements intended to change the taste of semen. In drugstores and sex stores you can find "refreshing wipes" that are often marketed as a way to mask the smell and taste of female genitalia.

It's a chicken and egg situation, but one way or the other lots of people have anxiety about the way they smell and taste, and this anxiety gets in the way of them enjoying oral sex (giving and receiving).

I believe that people's problems with oral sex taste are often more a problem of anticipation and association than anything else. Here's why.

I've spoken and corresponded with hundreds of people over the years about oral sex taste and many tell the same story. They never liked the taste of oral sex until they met one partner in particular and then it was so hot that they ended up loving it, and now they still do. This story always reminds me a bit of the common "I never liked fruitcake until I had this fruitcake" refrain.

But I don't think what's going on here is that all these people found the right taste that they love. I think it's about them connecting that taste and the experience of giving oral sex to intense sexual desire and arousal that they felt with that one partner for the first time. So many of our early sexual experiences are devoid of intense arousal and it's possible that in these early experiences we start to associate the smells and tastes of our partners' genitalia with anxiety and fear. With that established we approach each new partner with the same anticipatory anxiety. Until we have our first totally hot experience giving oral sex when we "get" that the smells and tastes aren't there to ward us off, they are there to draw us closer.

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Comments
September 6, 2008 at 6:39 pm
(1) BRat BR_DC says:

My Gawd! What’s wrong with the US and its people?
We lie to the rest of the world, we lie to each other, we even lie to our children, lovers, and spouses. Are we now going to lie to ourselves, cover it all up, and pretend sex doesn’t happen?
Get real USA

September 24, 2008 at 12:35 pm
(2) Karen says:

Ooh, yeah, you are probably totally right. There are several sexual tastes that I had tried previously and didn’t like. But then tried again with a different partner, and now I really like it! With him and others. I see it as a good thing. And I’m proud of myself for giving things another try, knowing that it could be a more positive experience with a new partner, and not that I truly dislike [whatever].

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