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Cory Silverberg

Sex on New Years Eve

By December 29, 2008

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If you ever want to ruin someone’s sexual evening here’s an easy way to do it.

  1. Build up the expectations and pressure (say stuff like, “It’s going to be a magical night!” “Everything is going to be perfect!” “I’ve been waiting for this all year”).
  2. Get everyone involved really drunk.

Feeling pressure to have sex or to perform sexually and drinking too much are two of the greatest libido killers. Which, when you think of it, probably means that a lot of people having sex on New Years Eve may not be having the best sex.

I understand the idea of having great sex on New Years Eve, and certainly get why people want to do it. But I think most people go about it the wrong way.

If you’re hoping to have sex and maybe even great sex on New Years, here’s my suggestion. The best way to insure you’ll have great sex one night of the year is to have great sex all year round. Sex isn’t like playing the lottery (or it shouldn’t be). It’s more like playing an instrument, the more you do it, the more you enjoy it, the better your experience of it will be. Of course what defines great sex is different for everyone, but here are a few elements I highly recommend you consider in making your own list:

  • Great sex is sex you really want, when you want it, who you want it with.
  • Great sex is sometimes (but not always) uncomfortable, revealing, and unexpected.
  • Great sex makes you feel good about yourself and your body.
  • Great sex offers moments where you can lose yourself completely. They might be seconds, minutes, or hours, but it’s a complete loss.

If you still don’t believe me about alcohol and expectations, read on.

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Comments
January 2, 2009 at 8:32 pm
(1) Fantasy-Pleasures.com says:

I hope everyone followed your words. I had a great night & tried some new things….cant wait til next year

January 11, 2009 at 10:19 am
(2) John says:

I agree sex should be preformed straight. Main thing is that you remember the following morning.

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