Personal lubricants are perhaps the greatest unsung sex toy. While it’s true that lubricant can be used to solve a sexual problem, like vaginal dryness, lube is much more than something to use only when you “need” it.
The right personal lubricant can:
- Intensify and enhance sensations (for solo or partner sex)
- Change the way that sex feels
- Help you have sex longer
- Make safer sex safer by reducing the chances that a condom will break
- Eliminate pain associated with intercourse that comes from vaginal dryness
- Be essential for certain kinds of sex play, like using sex toys and exploring anal sex.
Figuring out which is the right one for you can be tricky. Here are some key things to consider when choosing a personal lubricant.
Water Based or Silicone Based Personal Lubricant
Both water based and silicone based lubricants are safe to use with condoms, and many of the products, and all of the ingredients are FDA approved. The main difference between water based and silicone based lubricants are:- Flush out of the body, and off the body easier than silicone
- Are more widely available
- Are available in flavored and warming variations
- Are less expensive
- Contain no water, so they never dry up or evaporate
- Require soap and water to come off the skin
- Do not absorb in the skin
- Are more expensive, but less is required
Functions of Personal Lubricants
Personal lubricants are great to use for all kinds of sex play, including:- Vaginal penetration
- Anal penetration
- Sex toys
- Masturbation or partner sex
In general, thicker lubricants are better for anal play and with sex toys as they stay on toys better, and may provide extra comfort for anal penetration. For vaginal penetration, the consistency is a personal preference. Men who are looking for a lubricant for masturbation may want an oil based product since it stays slick longer (but is not good for use with condoms or vaginal penetration). Some people mix a long-lasting silicone lubricant with some water-based lubricant to give it a thicker consistency.
Health and Safety Concerns with Personal Lubricants
Unfortunately, there is practically no research on personal lubricants and allergic reactions or health risks. But there is information about the ingredients in personal lubricants, and over the years, some of the better sex stores have identified anecdotal concerns about using some lubricants. The concerns tend to fall into four areas:Personal lubricants and yeast infections. While there is no conclusive research that demonstrates that lubricants can cause yeast infections, most water based lubricants contain glycerin, and people who are prone to yeast infections are probably wise to avoid these products. If you're prone to yeast infections, consider choosing a glycerin-free lubricant.
Personal lubricants and allergic reactions. Individuals could react to any of the ingredients in a lubricant. Always read the ingredient list before using a lubricant (and if you’re shopping on line only buy from a site that lists the ingredients). One common ingredient in lube that can cause an allergic reaction is the paraben preservative.
Personal lubricants and long-term health concerns. Two small studies in the past five years have raised concerns over the potential long-term impact of parabens, which are commonly used in many water based lubricants. There is not enough research to prove anything, but if you are concerned about reactions and long term health effects you may want to consider a paraben-free lubricant.
Personal lubricants while trying to conceive. It isn’t often talked about, and there are many physicians who aren’t even aware of it, but most commercial personal lubricants harm sperm and can get in the way of trying to have a baby. This doesn’t mean that lubricant can be used as a form of birth control, but it does mean that if you’re trying to conceive, you should make sure you’re using a lubricant that won’t get in the way.
