Sex Toy Gifts

It's hard for me to narrow down which among these sets Id like to receive and which I wish I could give this holiday season. Jimmyjane's exacting standards, attention to detail, and love of sensual things mean that not only are their products excellent, but their curatorial gift skills are top notch. They've got kits starting at $45 and going up to $3999 (that last one includes a bouncy house, shown on right, which may or may not be a joke).

Slip-on harnesses, like this adorable all fabric red and white striped number, tend to offer you less control and aren't as versatile as harnesses with removable rings. But with the right moves and right dildo they still offer function and fun. Like all sex, strap-on sex involves an element of performance, and its amazing how the right costume can just make you inhabit a character!

My number one choice for innovation in 2011,the Ola is the first product from sex toy start-up Minna, and offers a unique squeezable user interface that's well designed and fun to use. Rechargeable, silicone, waterproof, and very powerful, I wouldn't pick this as a first time vibrator but if you've got the money (its around $140) and know what you like, its the next step for sure.

Adorable, sexy, and dangerous all in one. This is a black necktie that can be used as an adjustable leash for power play. The "knot" comes in gold or silver, and with a simple flip of the back folds it turns from an elegant black tie to a tool of sensual control. No one needs to know how quickly you'll turn, and having a secret you can silently share during dinner or at a holiday party can help keep you grounded and connected during stressful times.

Several years ago a Canadian company designed a brand new kind of sex toy, one that could be worn during vaginal intercourse to increase stimulation with vibration that can be felt by both partners. Now the folks at LELO have turned this concept on its side, or at least they're letting us do it. Tiani is similarly designed to be inserted vaginally and can be used during intercourse, but it offers a few amazing innovations. First, it comes with a remote control, so you don't have to move the vibrator to cycle through one of the six vibration patterns. Second, the vibrator itself responds to movement, tilt it slightly or shake it up, and the vibrations change in response to the motion. Definitely a luxury, but one worth trying for those who can afford it.

For the prostate stimulation lover on your holiday gift list, the Duke is a welcome addition to anal vibrators. It's silicone, rechargeable, and has eight different vibration patterns. Plus the vibrator is removable so the silicone toy can be boiled in water or otherwise immersed for easy cleaning. The design makes it an easy toy to use on your own or on a partner, and when its fully inserted the base provides external perineum stimulation as well. What more could a fella ask for Christmas?

A pick from the sex toy lovers at Early to Bed this Japanese vibrator offers a whole lot more than a rotating rabbit. It's a dual action vibration that rotates and provides clitoral stimulation but each row of beads in the shaft move independently, and the "butterfly-ish" clitoral stimulator has four speeds and five patterns of vibration. In their words "the high on the vibe is one of the most powerful Highs we have felt" which I'm pretty sure isn't a drug reference, unless pleasure by vibration is a drug. In which case Ill have what they're having.

The music-loving folks at OhMiBod offer their take on a well-designed and surprisingly affordable remote vibrator. The Club Vibe 2.OH is slim and designed to slide into your underwear, shaped primarily for women's bodies and clitoral stimulation although with a little imagination it works for all kinds of bodies and erogenous zones. The remote control works at 20 feet, and you can set it to a music responsive mode, where the vibrations will match the music in the air. The vibrator and remote click together magnetically for easy storage, and the whole number is rechargeable via USB

A different kind of remote, but also from OhMiBod, the Freestyle W is compatible with OhMiBod's App, which can allow you to control the vibrator over great distances, making it a kind of teledildonic hybrid. Two motors, one in the shaft and one in the stem, provide vaginal and clitoral stimulation, and can be controlled like any other dual action vibrator. But you can also use the vibrator in music mode, where it will respond to the beat and vibe of the music (or any ambient sound). A perfect gift for the sex tech or music nerd in your life.

Last, but certainly not least, is my favorite gift for penis-having people. I know every toy is described this way, but the Tenga Flip is a completely unique sensory experience. And because of its unique inner chamber design, you can dramatically change the way it feels every time you use it. Its easy to clean, durable, and kind of futuristic looking. Ive already given two as gifts, and that wasn't even during the holidays. Read my full review below for all the details.