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Sex How Tos

Step by Step Guides to Sexual Techniques and Sex Toys

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Updated May 16, 2014

Sex How Tos
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What does it mean to know how to have sex?  Is it about biology? anatomy?  social skills?  physics?  Good sex is more than a matter technique. Knowing "how to have sex" means more than just knowing the right way to move, the right thing to say, or the right product to buy.

In fact, the better you get at sex, the more I would say you learn that there is no right or wrong at all. Still, it's nice to have somewhere to start any new exploration, and these sex how tos are meant as just that, a good place to start.


Sexual Technique

How to Masturbate (Men)
Masturbation tips and techniques for bodies with a penis and scrotum.

How to Masturbate (Women)
Masturbation tips and techniques for bodies with a clitoris, vulva, and vagina.

How to Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation can be a fun, functional, and educational addition to any couples sex life. Whether you're a shy introvert or a happy exhibitionist, learn tips for including mutual masturbation into your sexual repertoire.

Nipple Stimulation How Tos
The breasts and nipples can be highly sensitive and sexually pleasing parts of the body for people of all genders. Tips on providing nipple stimulation with just the right amount of enthusiasm.

How to Tips for Clitoral Stimulation
Whether it is your own or someone else's, here are tips on how to provide clitoral stimulation.

How to Perform Cunnilingus
Tips on performing cunnilingus on a woman, also known as oral sex, giving head, and going down on a woman. Suggestions for oral sex techniques and a step by step guide.

How to Perform Fellatio
Tips on performing fellatio on a man, also known as oral sex, giving head, and giving a blow job. Suggestions for oral sex techniques and a step by step guide.

How to Have Male Multiple Orgasms
An introductory how-to about male multiple orgasms. Explains the importance of breathe, awareness, and PC muscles to have non-ejaculatory orgasms that can prolong sexual pleasure and increase male sexual potential.

How to Have Sexual Intercourse
Sex tips on how to have sexual intercourse, including suggestions on positioning, pacing, g spot and prostate stimulation during intercourse, and how to have orgasms during intercourse.

How to Erotic Touch
A step by step guide to exploring sexual touch with your partner. Ideas on how to increase intimacy through sexual touch, and tips on ways to touch that will deepen your knowledge of your partner's body and sexual response.

How to Fantasy Sexual Role Play
Information and ideas on sexual fantasy role play, creating scenarios, developing characters, finding costumes and props, and setting ground rules for safe and fun sexual fantasy role play.

How to Have Orgasms Through Intercourse
Orgasms don't come easily through intercourse. But that doesn't mean they don't come at all. Here are some tips on having orgasms through intercourse.

How to Tips for Pegging
Tips on pegging or the act of male anal penetration by a female partner. Includes ideas on talking about pegging, toys to choose for pegging, and safer sex considerations.

How to Have Anal Sex
The basic steps to having safe and pleasurable anal sex.

How to Tips for Anal Masturbation
Tips on exploring anal sex through anal masturbation.

How to Kiss
There are few universal rules to kissing, but here are some basic tips on how to kiss for the anxious and uninitiated.

How to Tips for First Intercourse
Tips on making intercourse for the first time more pleasurable, less awkward, and less painful.

How to Tips for Edging
Tips on edging, a sexual activity that involves postponing orgasm.

How to Give a Man a Handjob
A step-by-step guide to the fine art of manual stimulation.

How to Give a Woman a Handjob
A step-by-step guide to the fine art of manual stimulation.

How to Take Erotic Photographs
Tips from erotic photographer Chris Ablet on taking your own erotic photographs.

How to Light a Room for Sex
Learn how to play with light and shadow using whatever light you've got to create an erotic and playful scene.

How to Find Your G Spot
A guide to finding your own, or someone elses, g spot.

How to Prostate Massage
A step by step guide to finding the prostate gland and prostate stimulation. Sometimes called the male g-spot or "prostate milking," prostate massage can be intensely pleasurable for many men.

Sex When You Work From Home
Working at home can be a real challenge to a healthy and happy sex life. Here are some tips on how to maintain the balance whether your sex life is solo or partnered.

How to Use Sex Toys

Very few sex toys come with instructions (if they did, it would give new meaning to the acronym RTFM!) Some people will feel immediately comfortable exploring their new toys and the many options available, but for the rest of us, here are some ideas on ways to use sex toys, along with safety information to reduce problems and extend the life of your toys.
 

How to Use a Vibrator (Women)

How to Use a Vibrator (Men)

How to Use a Dildo

How to Use Anal Beads

How to Use Penis Rings

How to Use Rabbit Vibrators

How to Use Lubricant

How to Choose Adult Movies

How to Find a Good Sex Shop

Sexual Communication How Tos

How to Dirty Talk
Suggestions on how to introduce “dirty talk” to your relationship, with tips on expanding your vocabulary of sex words, getting comfortable with dirty talk, and recommendations for more reading.

How to Suggest a New Sexual Activity
Tips on how to talk with your partner about incorporating a new sexual activity into your sex life.

How to Raise Difficult Sexual Issues
It's never easy to bring up a sexual worry, complaint, or fear with a partner. Here are some things to think about before, and tips on how to start a conversation about a sexual issue.

How to Talk About Your Fetish
Talking to a partner about a fetish can feel very scary, and the truth is you don't know how they will react. Thinking carefully about it first is one way to go into the conversation a bit more prepared for any reaction.

Talking About Erectile Dysfunction
The drug company commercials make it look easy, but in real life it can feel scary even knowing where to start. Two articles for different conversations:
How to Talk About Erectile Dysfunction with a Partner  and How to Talk with Your Doctor About Erectile Dysfunction

How to Talk About Public Displays of Affection
How can I talk to my partner about the difference between what they want and what I want when it comes to public displays of affection?

How to Talk About Sex and Infertility
Suggestions on where to start a conversation about your sex life while dealing with fertility issues.

How Do I Tell I Cheated
Disclosing an infidelity may not always be the best idea, but if you have decided to tell, here are some things to think about before telling.

How to Talk About Differences in Sex Drive
When one partner wants more or less sex than another it's easy to fall into a pattern of blame and avoidance. If you're ready to start talking, here are some tips on where to start a conversation about sex drive.

How to Talk to Your Doctor About Sexuality and Palliative Care
Whether you are the partner or the person receiving palliative care, if you have questions about sex it's your right to get answers from your doctor. Which isn't the same thing as saying it's easy. Here are some suggestions on talking with doctors.
 

Condoms and Safer Sex

How to Find the Best Condoms
The best condom is the one that fits right and even adds to the pleasure of a sexual encounter (it's true, it can happen). Tips on finding the best condoms for you.

How to Use Male Condoms
Detailed instructions on the correct way to use a male condom.

How to Use the Female Condom
Detailed instructions on the correct way to use a female condom.

How to Put a Condom On With Your Mouth
If you can't or don't want to use your hands, or are just looking for a nifty parlor trick, here is your guide to putting on a condom with your mouth. Practice banana not included.

How to Use Dental Dams
When used properly dental dams can provide protection from sexually transmitted infections and make sex safer. Here’s how to properly use dental dams.

How to Figure Out Sexual Risk
What determines sexual risk? And if there's risk to everything, how do you decide whether doing something is too risky?

Sex and Your Body

How to Deal with Loss of Bowel and Bladder Control During Sex
If your dealing with loss of bladder and/or bowel control and it's getting in the way of your sex life, there are things you can do.

How to Stop Premature Ejaculation
Tips on how to stop premature ejaculation.

How to Do Kegels (for men's bodies)
Step by step instructions on doing kegel exercises to strengthen your PC muscles for men.

How to Do Kegels (for women's bodies)
Step by step instructions on doing kegel exercises to strengthen your PC muscles for women.

How to Manage Sexual Side Effects of Medication
Ideas on managing the sexual side effects of prescription medications.

How to Do a Testicular Self-Exam
A step by step guide to a testicular self-exam.

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