Readers Respond: What Is Great Sex?

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Updated May 16, 2011

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The best sex I have ever had was with a man I was very much in love with and he with me. We were not married, but cared about each others feelings and experience, and were very turned on by each other (mind/intellect, emotions, curiosity, and body). The sex was incredibly caring, loving, extended in time, and explosive. But the part that amazes me the most is the lasting fantasies that resulted long after "sex" was over (we live in different States). Our "former" sex feeds my desire and fantasies even when we are apart. The mind and the heart are the most amazing sex organs.
—Guest newlyborn

I would love to have sex for money but don't really know how to go about it. Why not be paid to give someone pleasure? And I am 51 years old.
—Guest SANDRA

Wow, this takes time, accepting each other and being submissive to the others desires. To give to each other, to take the time to know the person and to enjoy what your partner requires in your love. It has to be a team sport that never can allow anything to come between the two. Foreplay, be it verbal, touching or a situation created must be for both to enjoy for it to considered great. Lastly, sex that is great can only come from unconditional desire for the others pleasure and complete enjoyment of each others body. Of course, great sex then takes time and knowledge that can only be gathered when both sides look at it as being open to desires, wanting your lover to enjoy those desires and never judging or blaming the other if something just didn't go like you thought. laughing, playing to together and knowing it takes two with total giving to the other. Then you have a foundation of great sex.
—Guest So Cal GUy

I am nearing 50. Having not had much sex with my husband over the past 20 years, I have resumed an old friendship with my former high-school boyfriend and have been having the sex of my life for the past year, up to two times a week. I am absolutely turned on, hot and ever so aroused! I never thought this could happen to me. What has been happening (during foreplay and intercourse) is something I have never experienced before, which is an extreme amount of vaginal fluid, at times also bursts of fluid, almost the same as when "your water breaks" just before birth. It just comes out like a sudden flood! In any event, this fluid has no color, no smell and it flushes out suddenly and frequently during each session. So, usually, when we have sex - everything is wet!
—posty16

The exploration of each others body and desires. In any and all aspects Being non jugemental and alowing yourself the sexual freedom not to be judged, truly great sex!
—Guest candy

Great sex is when you are doing it with someone you love and orgasms are delicious. Great sex is slow sex.
—Guest Amy

I recently had an excellent sexual encounter. We were not in love, but there is a trust and respect in our relationship. The experience for me was letting go of inhibition and enjoy being as human as possible, while both giving and receiving great pleasure.
—Guest dragonshound

Sex is when i feel an orgasm and it becomes as if flying in space, and feeling that my partner is flying with me.
—Guest gamal

Great sex happens only with the person you are in love with and since both are in love there is nothing stopping you to go the littile bit far.Its ok because both understand each other perfectly.
—Guest Avas

Great sex, is the one that you have with the person that you love, it doesn't matter if it is oral or anyway, if you love the person and she loves you, that's the great sex.
—Guest raul

there is a scene in the Soloist where Nathaniel Ayers is experiencing a piece of music. That scene is the closest thing I have ever seen to a accurate description of great sex. Words are formed in a very small section of our brain and require a small part of our body to produce. I do not expect that they would be adequte to describe something that consumes the whole brain and body and moves it outside of itself.
—Guest smoooj

For me it's all about the release, that satisfying end to something and the drifting off to sleep feeling completely content. I wouldn't say an orgasm is required every time, but it def. helps.
—Guest momo

I think great sex is the kind when you almost forget your having sex; when you're so unselfconscious that you're just experiencing wonderful feelings and your totally engaged and in sync with another person.
—Guest hushabye

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